Free or cheap summer holiday activities in Berkshire (and at home!)


How many of you struggle to come up with ideas to entertain the children over the summer holidays? Whether your kids are constant balls of energy or lethargic teenagers who need to be dragged away from a computer there will be something here for you!

Summer holidays can be expensive. As its the one time of year when we are (usually) guaranteed some nice weather, we all like to make the most of it. Days out, breaks away, meals out and more. So I thought I’d compile a list with my ideas and the ideas of many Berkshire Mumsnetters of activities you can do and places you can visit that are relatively inexpensive or free.

I will be updating this regularly throughout the summer and you can of course see Mumsnet Berkshire for other listings

Explore Nature

Go on a nature exploration looking for bugs and insects galore. Pack up a magnifying glass and a few clear plastic pots to (temporarily) capture your finds and examine. See how many you can find! Berkshire has a great variety of nature reserves. Here are just a few:

1) Hoselake Theale

A beautiful lake you can walk around with lots to explore. Free parking near by and you can always pack some snacks or a picnic.

2) Inkpen Common Newbury

This flower filled common will be teaming with wildlife such as butterflies, bees & dragonflies!

3) Bray Pit Maidenhead

With a little lake and beautiful scenary you are bound to spot some great wildlife here! Definitely take your camera. It’s very pretty!

4) Thatcham Nature Discovery Centre

5) Englemere Pond Winkfield

Have a stroll around the pond, take some bread and enjoy the simple task of feeding the ducks

For more nature reserves to visit across Berkshire visit Mumsnet Berkshire

Activity & Discovery Centres

1) Thatcham Nature Discovery Centre

With family friendly walks, a visitors centre packed with interactive wildlife and a natural history display, there is lots to see and do here

2) The Lookout Discovery Centre Bracknell

Don’t forget your car park gives you a discount into the Discovery centre! Fun for the whole family inside, as well as three parks with play equipment designed that it can be used by children and families with special needs, equipment designed for older children and lots of things for the little ones to do too. There are loads of walks, you can hire bikes and a lovely café for something to eat if you don’t take a picnic.

3) Horse Shoe Lake Sandhurst

Popular with those who enjoy walks, dinghy sailing, birdwatching and other water sports.

Toddler Groups

1) Wokingham Salvation Army Toddler Group is on during the school holidays.

A lovely little toddler group on Monday & Friday mornings where you’ll get a warm welcome

2) Not a toddler group as such but Toddler Sense have a number of classes on for only £5.50 per class covering Winnersh, Bracknell & Twyford. It’s worth contacting your local Toddler Sense to see what’s on.

3) Diddi Dance Classes have a few summer specials on too in the Reading area


Never underestimate how awesome your local library is for activities for children of all ages. Not only do they have books to read, they also offer crafts, singing and much more! Please note not all rhymetime and storytimes are mentioned here. Please assume you need to book places on activities, especially those with a charge.

1) Under 5’s at the libraries in the Royal Borough of Windsor & Maidenhead

Library Time Day Activity Dates
Ascot 10.30am Wednesday Story & Rhymetime 30 Apr, 14 May, 11 Jun, 25 Jun, 9 Jul
Boyn Grove 2pm Tuesday Story & Rhymetime Fortnightly: 17 Jun, 1 Jul, 15 Jul
Cookham 2pm Thursday Storytime & colouring Fortnightly: 17 Apr, 1 May, 15 May, 29 May *
Cox Green 10.30am Wednesday Story & Rhymetime 23 Apr, 30 Apr, 14 May, 28 May, 11 Jun, 25 Jun, 9 Jul
Cox Green 11.30am Sunday Storytime 18 May, 15 Jun, 20 Jul, 17 Aug, 21 Sep, 19 Oct, 16 Nov, 21 Dec
Datchet 10am Wednesday Story &
30 Apr, 14 May, 28 May *
Dedworth 9.30am Thursday Storytime 24 Apr, 8 May, 22 May, 5 Jun, 19 Jun, 3 Jul, 17 Jul
Eton 2.30pm Friday Storytime 25 Apr, 23 May, 20 Jun
Eton Wick 10.30am Wednesday Story & Rhymetime 23 Apr, 7 May, 4 Jun, 18 Jun, 2 Jul, 16 Jul
Maidenhead 10.30am Tuesday (term time only) Storytime & colouring Every Tuesday during term time
Maidenhead 10.30am Saturday Story & Rhymetime 26 Apr, 24 May, 21 Jun, 19 Jul
Maidenhead 12.30pm Sunday Storytime Fortnightly: 3 August, 17 August, 31 August, 14 September, 28 September, 12 October, 26 October
Windsor 10am Friday Storytime & colouring Every Friday (including holidays)
Windsor 10.30am Saturday Story & Rhymetime 10 May, 14 Jun, 12 Jul
Windsor 11.30am Sunday Storytime 27 Apr, 25 May, 29 Jun

2) Newbury Library

Tuesdays & Wednesdays throughout August -11am Rhymetime for under 3s

Fridays 11am & 2pm – Story time for under 5’s

Tuesday 26 August, 2pm & 3.30pm- ZooLab workshop for 8-11 year olds, in connection with this year’s Summer Reading Challenge. Come and meet some of the extraordinary creatures from the world of myth and fairy tale. £2 per ticket in advance.

3) Hungerford Library

Thursday 21st August – 12pm ZooLab workshop for 4-11 year olds, in connection with this year’s Summer Reading Challenge. Come and meet some of the extraordinary creatures from the world of myth and fairy tale. £2 per ticket in advance.

4) Lamborne Library

Thursday 21st August 10am – ZooLab workshop for 4-11 year olds, in connection with this year’s Summer Reading Challenge. Come and meet some of the extraordinary creatures from the world of myth and fairy tale. £2 per ticket in advance.

Wednesday 27th August 10:30am – Rhyme time for under 5’s

5) Pangbourne Library

Monday 4th August -2pm, Tuesday 5th August 1030am & Thursday 7th August 930am – Pangbourne Heritage Group WW1 exhibition

Thursday 21st August 230pm – ZooLab workshop for 4-11 year olds, in connection with this year’s Summer Reading Challenge. Come and meet some of the extraordinary creatures from the world of myth and fairy tale. £2 per ticket in advance.

6) Thatcham Library

Mondays throughout August 215pm – Storytime for under 5’s

Tuesday 12th August 11am – Rhymetime for under 3’s

Tuesday 26th August 11am – ZooLab workshop for 4-11 year olds, in connection with this year’s Summer Reading Challenge. Come and meet some of the extraordinary creatures from the world of myth and fairy tale. £2 per ticket in advance.

7) Theale Library

Fridays in August 11am – Storytime for under 5’s

8) Aborfield Library

Monday 4th August-  215pm Mythical Maze Stories & Crafts, ages 4-12 £1.50

Monday 4th August – 3pm Elmer Parade – listen to Elmer and make your own Elmer mask, age 5 & under

9) Finchampstead Library

Get Creative Tuesday August 5, 12, 19, and 26. Session 1: 2pm to 2.45pm Session2: 3pm to 3.45pm For children aged 12 and under, £1 charge Please book at the FBC Centre, (0118) 908 8155

Beading Workshop for children Create different creatures with tutor Caroline Marriot. Wednesday August 6 Session 1: 9.45am to 10.45am Session2: 11am to 12noon For children aged 8-12 years old £4 charge, places must be booked at the Library.

Mythical Story Morning Friday August 8, 15, 22, and 29 10am to 10.50am For children aged 4 to 12 years, Free, just drop in.

Rainforest Discovery Thursday August 21 1pm to 2pm For children aged 4 to 12 years old £3.50 charge, places must be booked at the Library.

10) Lower Early Library

Thursday 7th August – 245pm Fizzlebert Stump, age 6 and over £3, meet the author and hear stories and poems

Thursday 14th August 2pm – Circus Workshop, age 4-12 £3.50

Thursday 21st August 11am – Rainforest Discovery & Quirks Animal Roadshow, age 4-12, £3.50

Tuesday 26th August 1pm – Alice In Wonderland, free explore learning ages 6-9.

Tuesday Augyst 26th 1pm – Tracey Beaker, free explore learning, ages 8-11

11) Maiden Erlegh

Monday 11th August 2pm – Mythical Maze story & craft session, age 4-12 £1.50

Thursday 14th August 1pm – Mythical Puppet Workshop, age 4-12 £3.50

12) Spencers Wood

Mythical Maze Story and Craft Session Monday August 11 2.30pm to 3.30pm For children aged 4 to 12 years old £1.50 charge, places must be booked.

Mythical Puppet Workshop Thursday August 14 10.30am to 11.30am For children aged 4 to 12 years old £3.50 charge, places must be booked.

13) Twyford Library

Mythical Maze Story and Craft Session Tuesday August 12 10.30am to 11.30am For children aged 4 to 12 years old £1.50 charge, places must be booked.
Rainforest Discovery Thursday August 21 9am to 10am For children ages 4-12 years old £3.50 charge, places must be booked

14) Wargrave Library

Fridays throughout August 230pm – Get Arty, £1.50 ages 4-12

Wednesday 6th August 1030am –  Circus Skills, £3.50, age 4-12

Wednesday 13th August 1030am – Mythical Puppet Workshop £3.50 age 4-12

14) Winnersh Library

Circus Workshop Come along and learn some circus skills. Wednesday August 6 2pm to 3pm For children aged 4 to 12 years old. £3.50 charge, places must be booked.

Mythical Puppet workshop Wednesday August 13 1pm to 2pm For children aged 4 to 12 years old. £3.50 charge, places must be booked.

Mythical Maze Stories and Crafts Listen to tales of dragons, with mythical craft. Thursday August 28 2pm to 3pm For children aged 4 to 12 years old. £1.50 charge, Just drop in!

Children’s Games Club A selection of Chess, Draught, Connect Four or bring your favourite game. Every Wednesday 2pm to 4pm For children aged 4 to 12 years old, just drop in!

15) Wokingham Library

Heritage Walk around Wokingham Find out about the story of James ‘Sooty’ Seaward, from child chimney sweep to town councillor and probable inspiration for Tom in The Water Babies Monday July 28, 11am For children aged 7 years old and over. Free to attend, places must be booked.

“I’m a Little Alien” Poetry Workshop with James Carter Wednesday July 30, 1pm to 1.30pm and 1.45pm to 2.15pm For children aged 6 and under, £2 charge, places must be booked.

“Journey to the Centre of my Brain” Poetry Show with James Carter Wednesday July 30, 2.30pm to 3.30pm For children aged 6 to 12 years old, £3 charge, places must be booked.

World War 1 Vehicle Session Friday August 1, 10am to 11am For children aged 4 to 12 years old, £1.50 charge, places must be booked.

Fizzlebert Stump and Poems Galore with Author A.F. Harrold Thursday August 7, 10.30am to 11.30am For children aged 6-12 years old, £3 charge, places must be booked.

Get Arty Thursday August 21, 10.30am to 11.30am For children aged 4 to 12 years old, £1.50 charge, just drop in

Rainforest Discovery Thursday August 21, 3pm to 4pm For children aged 4 to 12 years old, £3.50 charge, places must be booked.

16) Woodley Library

“I’m a Little Alien” Poetry Workshop with James Carter Wednesday July 30, 9.45am to 10.15am For children aged 6 and under, £2 charge, places must be booked.

“Journey to the Centre of my Brain” Poetry Show with James Carter Wednesday July 30, 10.45am to 11.45am For children aged 6 to 12 years old, £3 charge, places must be booked.

Fizzlebert Stump Come and meet author AF Harrold, hear about Fizzlebert Stump and his adventures. Thursday August 7, 1pm to 2pm For children aged 6 and over. £3 charge, places must be booked.

Circus Workshop Come along and learn some circus skills. Thursday August 14, 10.30am to 11.30am For children aged 4 to 12 years old. £3.50 charge, places must be booked.

Get Arty Thursday August 21, 10.30am to 11.30am For children aged 4 to 12 years old. £1.50 charge, Just drop in!

The Famous Five  Create a picnic collage and try out our Famous Five treasure hunt. Tuesday August 12, 10.30am to 11.30am For children aged 7 to 11 years old. £2 charge, places must be booked.

Mythical Maze event with Author Margaret Bateson-Hill Thursday August 21, 2pm to 3.30pm For children aged 7 to 12 years old.

Free session courtesy of local Federation of Children’s Book Group – ‘Getting Reading Reading’, places must be booked.

17) Bracknell Forest Council Libraries

As part of this year’s Summer Reading Challenge we have some puppetry workshops arranged with ‘Arm Chair Puppets’. These workshops last for approximately 2 hours and cost £3.50 per person. Places are limited and so booking is essential.

  • Binfield Library – Tuesday 5 August at 10.30am
  • Crowthorne Library – Tuesday 5 August at 2.30pm
  • Bracknell Library – Wednesday 6 August at 10.30am
  • Sandhurst Library – Wednesday 6 August at 2.30pm
  • Birch Hill Library – Thursday 7 August at 10.30am
  • Harmanswater Library – Thursday 7 August at 2.30pm
  • Great Hollands Library – Friday 8 August at 10.30am
  • Whitegrove Library – Friday 8 August at 2.30pm

Mondays’ Harmans Water Library – Bounce and rhyme – 10am to 10.30am (weekly – beginning on 2 June 2014)

Tuesdays – Birch Hill Library Bounce and rhyme – 2.30pm fortnightly – please check with the library for dates

Tuesdays Bracknell Library – Children’s Tuesday Club with stories, bounce and rhyme, and crafts. Takes place fortnightly from 10am to 11am. All welcome.

Thursdays Binfield Library – Drop-in – the library opens at 9am for refreshments and the activities start at 9.30am – stories, rhymes and craft

Thursday – Binfield Library Crafts – first Thursday of the month – 10am to 10.30am

Thursdays in August Bracknell Library – Children’s story time and music – 9.30am – this session is run by Willows and Maples Children’s Centre.

Thursdays in August, Sandhurt Library – Storytime – 2.15pm for under 5s Free.

Fridays, Great Hollands Library, Storytime – 3.40pm for under 5s free.

Fridays Great Hollands Library, Bounce and rhyme – 11am under 3s free.

Fridays, Sandhurst Library, Bounce and rhyme – 9.30am – 2nd and 4th Friday of the month

Pubs with children’s play areas in Berkshire

We all love a nice cool drink in a pub on these warm, sunny days. But with children, it’s often a bit of a hassle as there is no entertainment for them and they don’t sit still. So you speed eat your food and don’t always relax. Well over at Mumsnet Berkshire, I’ve been asking you to tell me your favourite pubs that are child-friendly and have children’s play areas. Below I have listed a few and will add them as and when I discover them. If you know somewhere great that isn’t on here, please let me know


1) The Fox and Castle – Old Windsor


Great food, great atmosphere

2) The Elephant & Castle – Hurst


At the heart of the community with a lovely enclosed outdoor play space for the little ones.

3) The Cow & Plough – Bracknell

lovely play area so children can play whilst adults enjoy a nice summer drink

4) The Jolly Farmer – Cookham, Maidenhead


5) The Crown Inn – Slough


The restaurant serves excellent fresh food, great ales, wines & more. It has a beautiful garden with a kids play area and friendly roaming chickens.

6) The Palmer Arms – Dorney, Windsor


We are family friendly and have four young children ourselves. Our large garden is a great place to eat on a warm day and we have just added a children’s play area.

7) The Six Bells – Shinfield, Reading


A Greene King pub with an enclosed garden and play area.

8) The Running Horse, Bracknell


A Greene King Pub with children’s play area. Also great if you fancy a walk at Lily Hill Park before or after – same car park.

9) The Craven Arms Newbury


Outdoor play space based in Enborne Newbury

10) The George – Slough



11) Weather Vane Bracknell


Indoor softplay area perfect for the kiddies

12) The Rifle Volunteer

the rifle volunteer

A local pub with nice outside garden with play area too.


Pant-tastic Review of Aliens Love Underpants by Eliza (aged 3)

mnberksAliens Love Underpants at Leicester Square Theatre, London

Based on the hugely successful children’s book by Claire Freedman and Ben Cort, ALIENS LOVE UNDERPANTS premieres in the West End at Leicester Square Theatre from Saturday 19th July until Sunday 31st August, following a highly acclaimed UK tour

Mumsnet Berkshire was invited to review Aliens Love Underpants theatre production at The Leicester Square Theatre on Sunday 20th July 2014. I gave the free tickets to Local Ambassador Helen and her 3 year old daughter Eliza to review the show. Here, Eliza tells us her thoughts on the day.

To continue my weekend of 3rd birthday celebrations mummy, nanny and granddad took me to London for the first time ever! If that wasn’t exciting enough, we were going to see Aliens Love Underpants at a theatre! Mummy assured me that the theatre would have red chairs like a theatre I have been to before.


When we got to the theatre I got a sticker which was fab and mummy got our tickets. The theatre was all on one level and the chairs were really nice and big. I got a special squishy seat to put on my chair and I saw lots of other children getting a squishy seat too. There were lots of watchers at the show and we were all very excited.

Mummy said she was scared of the aliens so I held her hand a bit and told her they were friendly. There was some alien music playing before the show started so I had a dance.

When the show started four people came on to the stage with ‘ I love pants’ written on their t-shirts – mummy had to read it to me as I’m not that cleverer yet! Some of the people (mummy said they’re called actors) came off the stage and asked the watchers what their favourite pants were! I shouted that mine were flowery. Nanny and granddad were laughing lots at all the other children shouting.

The people on the stage got changed and put some school uniform on and one was pretending to be a teacher. They sang a very good song and one of the school boys wanted to be a spaceman. Mummy said it was very clever how they introduced the book into the show.

The show isn’t the same as the book but the actors do say some of the things that are in the book. The actor who was pretending to be the school boys mummy put lots of pants out to dry and an alien space ship flew behind their garden wall and pinched the pants. The mummy had to go and buy some more pants and did a funny song and dance with a pretend shop keeper. My granddad was dancing in his chair! When the mummy went home and put the pants away we had to remember what pants she had brought and shout them out to her. I thought it was really good that we kept joining in and it meant that the grown ups wouldn’t be bored or fall asleep as we were shouting so loud.

Harrison Spiers in ALIENS LOVE UNDERPANTS photo credit sjsphoto - Copy

The aliens appear in the school boys bedroom and he is really lucky and goes on a space ship with them. The aliens are only pretend so my mummy really wasn’t scared – the aliens are puppets that are held by the actors and the school boy wears headphones so we can understand what the aliens are saying which was really good.


Mummy says I’m not allowed to tell you the rest of the story as it will spoil it when you do go and see it with your grown ups.


We stayed after the show and there were some sandwiches and cakes put on the bar and lemonade for the children and some special drinks for the grown ups. There was a really funny lady dressed as an alien making balloon aliens and she did make me a pink one.

ALU4The aliens with the actors came on to the stage and I did have my picture taken with them. I blew them a kiss too. I told my mummy that they were so friendly but she didn’t want to stand next to them. I think she was still a little bit scared.For being a really good girl, I got a goody bag with the Aliens Love Underpants book, a sticker game to make some aliens that I did in the car on the way home and I also got an Aliens Love Underpants waver that my nanny hid behind.

I had a pant-tastic time and my mummy, nanny and granddad all agreed that the 55 minutes show was a really good length for younger children, the actor people were really good and very fast at changing their costumes and the stage set was very simple but very effective.

I’m going to go and look for aliens in our clean pants now – as they like to hide in there you know!


It’s competition time folks!

For your chance to win a family ticket for four people to see Aliens In Underpants at Leicester Square Theatre see our Mumsnet Berkshire competition

How to gift money without being taxed

How to Gift Money Without Being Taxed


Most people know that inheritance tax is a tax charged (at 40%) on your estate when you die. If your estate is worth more than the inheritance tax threshold (currently £325,000) then the whole of the estate above that figure will be subject to the tax. There are, however, a number of exemptions of which you may be able to take advantage, effectively amounting to state-sanctioned tax avoidance!

All outright gifts are free of inheritance tax provided you survive seven years from the date of a gift. If you do not survive the full seven years then taper relief may be available on the tax payable on the gift, but only in very restricted circumstances. The relief will also be denied if you retain any benefit from the property which you have given away, otherwise known as a “gift with reservation of benefit” in the inheritance tax jargon.

Gifts made to charity are exempt from inheritance tax whether made in your lifetime or on death (in other words in your Will). Although we encourage our clients to leave legacies to charities in their Wills there is much to be said for the gifts being made in your lifetime because not only will the gifts reduce the size of your estate (and thus save inheritance tax) but you may be able to claim Gift Aid for income tax purposes. Perhaps it is better to do both!

In part we say this because of a new reduced rate of inheritance tax (38% rather than 40%) which has been introduced and will apply to those individuals who leave 10% or more of their estate to charity. In making the calculation, the taxman disregards property that attracts other exemptions or reliefs (including the nil rate band of £325,000), assets passing to your spouse (which are also exempt) and so on. Essentially, if you get the sums right, large amounts can be left to charity without significant loss to your beneficiaries, the biggest loser overall being the Inland Revenue!

It is even possible for your beneficiaries (or you if you are a beneficiary of someone else’s Will) to get together after someone has died and agree to redistribute the estate (using what is known as a “Deed of Variation”) to take advantage of this new rule.

A very important but often ignored tax allowance for inheritance tax purposes is that which applies to gifts made out of excess income. Inheritance tax is a tax on capital. If you have excess income in any given year and give away that excess income then, provided that the gift is of a regular nature, it is completely free of inheritance tax (no other exemptions need to be applied against it and the seven year rule does not apply). In principle, this is a very easy allowance to understand but in practice it is very difficult to obtain because detailed records are required. If this is something which you feel might apply to you then it is very important that you keep annual records of your income and expenditure and that these are accurate.

Perhaps the least known exemption is that which applies to payments made for the maintenance of dependent relatives. An obvious example would be paying for the school fees of your infant children. On the face of it, these appear to be “gifts” and would be taxable under the inheritance tax regime but are exempt as payments made to dependent relatives.  How many individuals, however, find themselves helping out elderly relatives with their living expenses? If you are in this situation then you, too, might be able to claim an inheritance tax exemption. There are some surprising circumstances in which this allowance is applicable and if you would like to explore this further, please contact us.


For further information please contact


Kate Humble Supports Local

Berkshire Local Editor:

Wow this is a really interesting blog!

Originally posted on Mumsnet Gwent :


As I entered the edible garden of Humble by Nature and heard the sound of excited children, chatting away and having fun, my first question was answered- “Does Humble by Nature host educational school trips for children?” Of course! And not only did they invite the local school along to the opening, they even had a cake competition, the winning cake was then served to all the guests at the opening.


Mrs Christofi, Head Teacher of Trellech Primary said, “When Humble by Nature asked us to be involved in the launch we were delighted. It’s great to see the farm expanding and offering more for the local area, as well as offering a showcase shop for some wonderful local producers. The children have loved creating a recipe for the cafe and we can’t wait to taste the winning cake!”
The winning cake was created by Layla Rollings from year…

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Awkward Questions Children Ask Part 3: What does the tooth fairy do with the teeth they collect?


Awkward Questions Children Ask Part Three

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Dr Amanda Gummer, Play & Parenting Psychologist and founder of Fundamentally Children has been helping Mumsnetters with how to answer those awkward questions that children ask.

So today’s question is:

What does the tooth fairy do with the teeth they collect?

tshirt sat at tableAmanda says… Imagination is a great tool and valuable in trying to understand things you cant see, hear or touch.

As with all the childhood myths and legends, it’s a wonderful opportunity to help children nurture their imagination and create their own beliefs.

You can say something like ‘No one really knows what the ‘tooth fairydoes with the teeth as you can’t see them, but why dont you think of all the things you think s/he may use them for?  And maybe draw a picture too.

Its also good to say what you like to think. Maybe they build homes or little villages?

Again, it’s good to reinforce that with beliefs, there’s no ‘right or wrong answer. For example ‘You can believe whatever you want to believe. Some people don’t believe in the Tooth fairy and this is fine too.’

A note from the Berkshire Local Editor: Harnessing a child’s imagination is a great thing and is a fantastic way to help them develop thought and consideration. You can get them to think through their argument. I think this because…… etc etc and that links in with what Amanda suggests about ensuring your child understands that there is no right or wrong answers when it comes to beliefs. I’d love to know your thoughts. Feel free to comment here or email

Read Part One: Who is lying?

Read Part Two: Why do grown ups argue?

Awkward Questions Part Two: Why Do Grown-Ups Argue?

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Dr Amanda Gummer, Play & Parenting Psychologist and founder of Fundamentally Children has been helping Mumsnetters with how to answer those awkward questions that children ask.

So today’s question is:

Why do grown ups argue? Shouldn’t they know better because you get told off if you do it when you are little.


tshirt sat at tableAmanda says……

Sometimes in life people will have disagreements with one another – It is important to remember that these arguments do not mean they dont like each other or dont love each other anymore; they just disagree over something (as you may do with a friend or sibling at times).  Sometimes an argument is a way of figuring out a problem and means that something gets better as a result.

But, when people get cross they occasionally argue and voices get raised, its not nice and it is ok to ask them to stop, as they do to you.  

Note from Mumsnet Berkshire Editor:

Personally I’d like to add that I think it’s important to show your child that there has been a resolution and that you have made up with whoever you have been arguing with. Even if it’s that you agree to disagree.

I’d love to know your thoughts on Dr Gummer’s advice and in fact, what you’d say yourself so please comment below or email me Do you think it’s acceptable to argue in front of children? Is it preventable or something that is inevitable? Do you show your children when you’ve made up after arguing?

Read Part One where Dr Amanda Gummer discusses how to answer the question: My 6 year old has been asking why his science books say the Universe was made by the Big Bang but at church they say that God made it. Who is lying?

Read Part Three: What does the tooth fairy do with teeth they collect?



Awkward Questions Part One: Who is lying?


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Dr Amanda Gummer, Play & Parenting psychologist and founder of Fundamentally Children has been has answering your questions on how to respond to those awkward questions children ask!

So here is the first question :

My 6 year old has been asking why his science books (he is a bit of a bookworm) say the universe was made by the Big Bang but at church they say God made it. He keeps asking me who is ‘lying’?’

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Amanda says……

It is important to have our own personal beliefs as it helps us to make sense of our complex world and can create a comfort to some people. You could try saying something along the lines of …

As the world is so old its hard to know exactly how it was created, and there is no one answer that everyone agrees on. Individuals and groups of people have varying ideas about what or who created the world and these are their personal beliefs.

Scientists believe there is evidence of a ‘Big Bangand that the planet Earth was formed during this event. Whereas the church likes to think ‘Godcreated the world and everything that lives here.

There are also other theories from other groups and religions too. You are able to believe whichever theory you like and neither are the ‘rightor ‘wronganswer, you may even have a different theory of your own.

It is important to remember your friends may have different ideas and opinions to you and that you wont always agree, but you can have different opinions and still respect each other’s views and be friends.

This is also a good opportunity to engage with a child on what they’ve been learning at school and ask them what they liked about the Big Bang theory for example.  Ask your school or library if they have any relevant books you can borrow.

Note from Mumsnet Berkshire Editor:

It must be really hard to discuss this without imposing your beliefs on your children and you may even find they are curious to know what your beliefs are. Of course it is fine to share these with your children. I think its a great idea to use this as an opportunity to help your child learn about these different ideas and teaching them to research beliefs and ideas before they make their own minds up.

I am really interested to know your thoughts on Dr Amanda Gummer’s advice on how to respond to this question. Please leave your comments here or email


Read Part Two: Why do Grown-ups argue?

Read Part Three: What does the tooth fairy do with teeth?

My interview with Theatrical Director Richard Lewis


Octonauts Live has been adapted and directed by Richard Lewis, a man with a multitude of exciting projects under his belt including Peppa Pig Live and Lazy Town. I was given the opportunity to ask Richard Lewis some questions about Octonauts Live and all about directing theatrical versions of popular children’s TV shows and I think you’ll agree it makes very interesting reading. I can’t wait to see Octonauts Live! Mumsnet Berkshire is running a competition. You can WIN free tickets to go and see Octonauts Live! Details at the end!


Adaptor and Director OF OCTONAUTS LIVE UK TOUR 2014 – 15


A brand new children’s stage show from the producers of Peppa Pig Live!

Back in January when you were interviewed by the Telegraph about the production of Peppa Pig, you mentioned that most popular children’s TV programmes want a stage show. What made you choose Octonauts as suitable for a stage production?

There are a variety of things we look for in projects. Perhaps first and foremost we’ve got to be excited by it and interested in it. If we haven’t got that, everything else will probably fail. Octonauts is a great adventure and really suits a stage adaptation –visually it’s impressive and it’s got some great characters in it. Perhaps most of all it’s got an important message to deliver –the protection of the seas and the natural environment.

Octonauts is full of adventure and perhaps more complex a television programme than Peppa Pig which is more simplistic. How did you go about turning Octonauts into a theatre production?

When turning TV animations into stage shows you have to be true to the core material. Octonauts is an action-packed, visually exciting and fast-moving adventure. It is important to ensure these elements are included in the stage show. To do this we use a mixture of formats that include large-scale projections which represent the sea and show the scale of adventure. We also use a mixture of black light and UV puppetry to show movement within the sea. We will have costume characters which accurately reflect the shape and size of the screen characters. But crucially, we make sure the costume characters have mouths that can speak directly to the audience so that we can include natural interactivity with the audience. Once you’ve decide these core principles, you then have to assemble around you a production and stage management crew that can deliver all of these assets.

How does it compare to the creation of the Peppa Pig’s Big Splash show which you also adapted for stage and directed?

All the adaptations have challenges in their own right which come from the content material. In the case of Peppa, retaining the intimacy and the childish fun was crucial to the show. It very much focuses on family values, Peppa’s relationships with her friends and other events in her immediate environment. With Octonauts the focus is on broader themes; environmental damage, saving sea life and working with others as a team to achieve a goal. Additionally, the Octonaut scenarios are set in a more complicated environment, they are either under the sea or in an area that is more technically difficult to reproduce or they involve fast-paced stage action sequences. So the core material of each of these brands is fundamentally different in style, making each show unique in itself.

Do you prefer directing children’s theatre productions to more grown up theatre productions? Why?

Perhaps the thing I like the best about directing the children’s shows is that I also get the opportunity to adapt them in the first place and then direct them in the rehearsal room afterwards. With the “grown up”shows you tend to be given a script that has been written by someone else and you apply a directorial interpretation to someone else’s work. In the case of the children’s shows, you are applying your own interpretation to your own adaptation. In this way, you are able to develop your ideas that you had at the script stage even further when you come to present them visually on stage. Perhaps the other exciting thing I find about children’s shows is that there is invariably a level of interactivity with the audience that you don’t have with the “grown up”shows. By having this connection with the audience you are able to offer a type of involvement that sometimes doesn’t happen with the grown up productions. Also, as everyone tells you, children can be your harshest critics. If they are bored or unhappy they will stand up and run around or just make a noise so one of the greatest challenges is often to find the focus for their concentration levels and ensure that they are continually engaged by the show. This is a real challenge.

What made you decide to work on productions aimed at the younger audience?

It wasn’t so much a choice as an accident. I had previously directed children’s shows as part of my directing career but was not planning to work in this area as extensively as I have been. Then seven years ago a producing colleague of mine asked if I would direct the CBeebies show The Fimbles and I agreed to do it. Shortly after that I became involved in the LazyTown Live shows which went on to be very successful. From that I found that other brands began to associate me with someone who worked in this field. So in the first instance it was an accident rather than a choice. However I originally trained as a drama teacher and worked for two years in the state sector and have always been interested in the social and individual development of children and this work seemed to be a natural extension of some of the ideas that I developed long ago. In fact part of the work that Limelight is now doing is developing a concept which we call “Happy Hearts” which is about the areas of development in children. We hope to be able to offer content for parents and children to assist this process.

Do you have to use your inner child to develop the production from screen to theatre?

It’s actually a very good question. Every adult still retains an inner child; it just depends on what access that adult has been able to retain to that child over the years. Sometimes they’ve been worn down by responsibility, by work, by events that happen in their life and have lost the capacity for that innocence which so reflects young children. When I was young I’m sure I was always an inquisitive child and always wanted to know why things happened, what made things worked, why was the sea blue and how do the starts sparkle….and although in my adult life those questions have changed I still retain an enquiring mind about everything around me. Hopefully also I’ve retained a sense of humour and imagination. These things together and have allowed me to look at the adaptations, the script and stage work through the eyes of a child. One of the things I find most fascinating is watching the first audiences that we have for a show because they will tell you instantly when things are not working or when things are going wrong. At those moments it’s quite possible for me to instantly understand what is wrong because they have shown me how to see the project again through their eyes.

How closely do you work with the original producers of the Octonauts television show to adapt it for theatre?

It is essential that we have a very close collaboration with the originators of any brand. They are the original source of enthusiasm, ideas and energy for the world that they have created and they are the best people to guide us on the adaptation process. Sometimes I refer to them as “The Gods” of their world. The choices they make, the characters they develop and the narratives they choose are all a reflection of what they hope to achieve. One of our key roles is to “get inside” the world of the brand and understand it in a truthful and fundamental way. If we fail to do this we will never accurately represent what they hope for on stage. When we begin work on a new project we will always start with a brainstorming session with the creators of the particular animation or TV show. Prior to this they will have sent us detailed information on the characters, the environments, the imagery and the core values of the brand. At the brainstorm we will explore some of the opportunities that the live show might be able to represent. Once I am armed with the ideas that come from this session I will attempt to distil them down to a single page synopsis which reflects the key points of the brainstorming day, but also is viable in theatre terms. Invariably the creators of the show will offer comments and suggestions to the synopsis and I will work on a second synopsis which will begin to flesh the ideas out a little further. Usually after the second synopsis I am able to write a first draft script which goes through the same sort of scrutiny. Once we have received suggestions on this script there is a very good chance we will have our rehearsal script. We then begin to work with set designers, lyricists, composers and a whole range of other people to start exploring the ideas of the script. But in terms of gaining the input and trust of the original creators it’s essential for there to be an easy and open dialogue between us all of the time.

You have an extensive and varied list of productions under your belt. Which has been your favourite and why?

I guess here you’re referring to the children’s shows and it would be improper for me to choose between one or the other. However what I can genuinely say that each of them bring such a sufficiently different approach to the others that they are unique and exciting in themselves. Not a single one of the productions emulates the style of the other, consequently LazyTown differs from The Fimbles, The Fimbles differs from Peppa and Octonauts too is different again. But it is the challenges they bring that makes everything so rewarding. Also, it’s exciting to be able to work with such a variety of talents that have generated these incredible series. During the development and approval processes of the shows I am always aware of the creative abilities that surround me … and back to your early question about the importance of working with the brand, it is only once you are working with the creators that you realise how completely they understand the world of their creation. Also it’s true to say that every single project you work on, including the non-children’s shows, brings with it a learning and life experience that you invariably take forward with you. So for example the show that has made me laugh the most was different from the show that made me cry the most; the show that made me excited the most was different from the one that was the most visual; the one that had the best music was different from the one that had the best characters and puppeteering. Also the range and type of performers that you get to work with during this period of time ranges from “I never want to see that person again”to “this person will go on to be a close friend”, so it’s just too difficult to say that one was a particular favourite. In their own way they’ve all had their benefits, they’ve all had their challenges, all had their disappointments and all had their successes, I’ve just been lucky enough to work in an exciting and stimulating environment as part of what I do.

What’s your next project? Go on.. you can tell me ;-)

Well, we continue to represent Peppa Pig worldwide and we have productions in Australia, Spain, Italy and shortly in Latin America and the US. Currently I’ve just completed the first synopsis for what we call, Peppa Pig 4….but will go to be called (I think) Peppa Pig’s Surprise. Peppa Pig’s Surprise will have its world premiere in the UK in October 2015 and then will go out for a 50 week tour. Beyond this we’re also working with some other major brands on developing projects for them but the only one I can particular confirm at this moment is an international touring show of Hello Kitty.

I’m really excited to see the show in February. My son will have just turned 3. Is this a good age to introduce children to the theatre?

I think 3 is a perfect age for a child to begin having theatrical experiences. Quite often I visit the shows and we see babes-in-arms of no more than 9 months, completely unaware of the experience they’ve been taken to. This is not, their fault, nor is it that of their parents; it’s just that their parent has been so determined and pleased to give their child an experience of something they perhaps love on TV at home they have chosen to take their child to it early on. The average starting age of children seeing pantomimes is 4 years old and bear in mind this will be going to see what is effectively a new experience and narrative. At 3 for the child to be able to experience characters they have seen on TV in their own front rooms and then experience them on stage is a very good bedrock for beginning their theatre journey through life. Also if you choose the right show for your 3 year old the production will invariably involve interactivity and it is a great place for this connection to begin. It will also be the first time that the child experiences the community of a theatre audience rather than watching in isolation, this has so many benefits from teaching concentration, working in groups, joining in, problem solving with others … the list goes on. I couldn’t recommend it as a better time.

What do you think dictates the success of a children’s theatre production for popular TV programmes?

Undoubtedly the success of a children’s theatre production is based on its profile and traction within the current market. Of course it needs to have great stories, good ideas and inherent values but the key to the success is that it is ready to be turned into a stage show. We have numerous brands approach us looking to develop a live show before the environment for that show is viable. Usually this would mean that the programme had been on the TV for approximately 5 years or longer, that is has 102 or more episodes which means it is well embedded in everyone’s mind and you’re not having a lot of repeat episodes, and that the consumer product programme is relatively extensive –this would mean for us that there are key licensees in place for toys and apparel, magazines, giftware and other core licenses as well as a variety of more specialist ideas. We generally look for a licensee programme to be in excess of around 30 licensees. On the basis of these being in place we are able to determine that the brand has sufficient popularity to support a live show. At the end of the day you are asking parents to buy tickets for their children to see their favourite characters on the stage. Once the “commercial environment” is stable it is then vital that the stories and content that will feed the drama of the live show are exploited to the full. This will be through song, characters, interactivity, set, costume and a mix of format which might include projection, puppetry and other costume character work. So there is a mix of criteria that need to form the back cloth to any successful theatre production.

Have any of yours flopped and if so, why do you think that was?

I presume this question is relating to the children’s shows but of course flops and failures also occur in the “grown up”theatrical environment.  It also runs into that tricky question: what constitutes a “flop”? Is a flop commercial failure or artistic failure? The reality is that over the years I have experienced failures of various kinds. Sometimes the box office hasn’t been as potent as we would have liked, sometimes the reviews haven’t been as kind as we will have liked. But none of these reasons would mean I wouldn’t have chosen to do exactly what I did do. Creative criticism is by its nature interpretive and what one person hails as a major success another might see as a damning failure. I don’t really quantify success in commercial terms. As a company we have had a number of productions that have lost money but, in all instances, I have never once regretted putting the shows on. I think the truth is if you just put shows on the make money, you’re doing it for the wrong reasons. In each of our cases we put shows on because we want to and believe in them. Yes, from a business point of view it’s helpful if they make money (or certainly don’t lose money) but that is not what is driving the whole concept of doing it in the first place.

Can you do Fireman Sam please because my son would LOVE that!

I’d love to do Fireman Sam but there’s already been a version of the production and you can see the live show on DVD if you want (in fact, I have one on my desk at the moment)!


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When Mumsnet Essex met with Deputy Prime Minister Nick Clegg & Justine Roberts (Mumsnet CEO)

Originally posted on Mumsnet Essex:


On Monday 30th June 2014, I was invited to head into London to discuss the new Flexible Working Rights with Mumsnet & Nick Clegg.

Up until now, the right to request flexible working hours has only been available for carers, or people who look after children.

This has now been extended to all employees.

Tuesday’s extension of the right to request the chance to work flexibly means more than 20 million employees can now benefit.

Flexible working helps people balance their work with responsibilities, keeping more people in long term employment and enabling companies to keep hold of top talent.

It is expected the new right will be of particular interest to older workers who want to work differently as they approach retirement and to young people entering the labour market who may want take up additional training or learning while they work.

As part of the right, employees can…

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