Dr Amanda Gummer, Play & Parenting Psychologist and founder of Fundamentally Children has been helping Mumsnetters with how to answer those awkward questions that children ask.
So today’s question is:
Why do grown ups argue? Shouldn’t they know better because you get told off if you do it when you are little.
Sometimes in life people will have disagreements with one another – It is important to remember that these arguments do not mean they don’t like each other or don’t love each other anymore; they just disagree over something (as you may do with a friend or sibling at times). Sometimes an argument is a way of figuring out a problem and means that something gets better as a result.
But, when people get cross they occasionally argue and voices get raised, it’s not nice and it is ok to ask them to stop, as they do to you.
Note from Mumsnet Berkshire Editor:
Personally I’d like to add that I think it’s important to show your child that there has been a resolution and that you have made up with whoever you have been arguing with. Even if it’s that you agree to disagree.
I’d love to know your thoughts on Dr Gummer’s advice and in fact, what you’d say yourself so please comment below or email me Berkshire@mumsnetlocal.com. Do you think it’s acceptable to argue in front of children? Is it preventable or something that is inevitable? Do you show your children when you’ve made up after arguing?
Read Part One where Dr Amanda Gummer discusses how to answer the question: My 6 year old has been asking why his science books say the Universe was made by the Big Bang but at church they say that God made it. Who is lying?
Read Part Three: What does the tooth fairy do with teeth they collect?